21. 25 Things I Look For In Guys

As part of a way to re-organize my brain after dealing with a certain guy-related situation, I've decided that as a way to keep myself put together, I am going to make a list of 25 things I look for in a guy so that I at least won't make the same mistakes that I've made in the past AGAIN.

25 Things Sara Looks For In Guys:

1. He must be older than me. THIS IS NOT DEBATABLE!

2. He must know what he wants in life. I do not want a guy who is indecisive about his career/schooling/anything. It goes against everything that I am.

3. He must be taller than me, because I hate to sound shallow, but I would feel weird dating a guy who was my height or shorter than me.

4. I want someone who can depend on me when he needs me, but isn't clingy. I would hope that he'd expect the same of me.

5. I want someone who is intelligent. I don't expect Einstein genius, but I don't want someone who equates the word "yeah, dude" to a fleshed out conversation.

6. I want someone who is not afraid to take life head on. 

7. I NEED a guy who is clear in what he wants. Some things in life are meant to be black and white.

8. I deserve a guy who doesn't keep telling me "I'm sorry that I can't date you", but might be thinking "but I sure do love your taste in guys".

9. I value my mom's opinion. If she thinks you're a douchebag, then 99% of the time you must really be a douchebag because she doesn't say that about many people.

10. A guy doesn't have to like the same exact things I do, (like Broadway), but don't be rude to me about liking those things.

11. This one should be obvious, but a guy who takes my feelings into consideration. Don't do or tell me things that could be construed as flirting when you have clearly stated that you don't like me that way. DUH. 

12. I need a guy who sees what he has in front of him. Usually people are luckier than they think.

13. I don't care how busy a guy is. He calls me at least once a week. Communication is important in a relationship!

14. I want someone who is compassionate. He doesn't have to feel every little thing that goes on inside my head, but I want him to at least listen and try to understand why I might feel the way that I do.

15. Someone who is into the city life. I love the city myself and I want to settle there, so any guy who is in the same mindset with me makes my life easier.

16. Trust me and I'll trust you. I want someone who has my back.

17. Once again, the whole mindset thing--I'm an Atheist. I don't expect you to have the same beliefs, but don't try bashing yours into my skull. It's just a big turn off.

18. If I can tell you just exactly how I feel, then you probably have me hooked. I am a very shy person and tend to close my feelings off from most people, so when I am honest like that, it is a big deal to me.

19. Taking #18 into consideration, don't blab about these things to other people, not even as "my friend felt this way". 

Time for the shallow part of the list! :D

20. Long hands/long fingers. 

21.  I prefer blue/green eyes, but any eyes do it for me if they are pretty enough.

22. Brunettes

23. NO ACTORS! I've learned my lesson with that one already.

24. ...Artists on the other hand...

25. No need for uber-muscles, but take care of yourself (like eating right, exercising, etc.). It shows that you are happy and confident with yourself. :]

~Sara